You Are a Priority

Somehow, somewhere down the line, we  have been taught the message that spending a little time on yourself is "selfish".  I'm still not sure which genius came up with such an idiotic theory, but it seriously needs to end here.

I know too many women who put themselves last on the priority list.  They've spent their entire adult lives taking care of children, husbands, grandparents, parents and many are nurses who take care of patients all day, everyday, without the slightest hesitation to give 100% of their time and dedication, to do the best job they can.  

However, ask them to spend an hour on themselves, and watch the horror take place.  First, it seems as if I'm speaking a foreign language, I understand that these are new words, and new concepts, but I promise I am speaking English.  Then, it's every single excuse in the book of why they can't possibly spend that much time on themselves, they have too many "priorities" that need attention.  When the excuses run out, and my English words set in, the thought of dedicating time to themselves brings out the big daddy of all horrors.....Guilt!

Again, I'm not sure where this started, and I'm really puzzled about why we keep passing around, but I'm taking a stand, stepping up to the plate and shouting "your needs are a priority".  If you feel guilty about this, or need to blame someone, blame me!  I'm the mother of teenagers, so I'm used to it always being "my fault", it doesn't bother me.  I'll be the "bad guy" here if it gets you to put a value on yourself, your health and enjoying your life. 

I want you to value yourself, every day.  It's not selfish to want to look and feel good, get comfortable with that concept.  Focusing on your well being needs to be at the top of your to-do list because, if you don't put yourself on the list, if you don't believe that you are a priority, why would anybody else?   You are worth it, you do deserve it, you are important. I know you have responsibilities, just remember that being responsible, and caring for everyone, includes caring for yourself too.  To your health!!